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Why visiting one’s ageing mother is not enough: on filial duties to prevent and alleviate parental loneliness

Author: Bouke de Vries

Published in: Medicine, Health Care and Philosophy | Issue 1/2021

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Abstract

As people grow old, many risk becoming chronically lonely which is associated with e.g. depression, dementia, and increased mortality. Whoever else should help to protect them from this risk, various philosophers have argued that any children that they might have will often be among them. Proceeding on this assumption, this article considers what filial duties to protect ageing parents from loneliness consist of, or might consist of. I develop my answer by showing that a view that may be intuitively plausible, namely that they simply require children to visit their ageing parents regularly when they can do so at reasonable cost and call, text, and/or email them from time to time, is defective in three respects. First, it ignores children’s potential responsibilities to encourage and/or facilitate social interaction between their parents and third parties. Second, it ignores their potential responsibilities to help provide their parents with non-human companionship. Third, it elides over their duties to coordinate their efforts to offer loneliness protection with others. What I end up proposing instead, then, is an approach for protecting ageing parents from loneliness that is multi-faceted.
Footnotes
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Which will depend upon e.g. the strength of their filial duties, the physical distance between them and their parent(s), and whether such visits render it difficult for them to discharge moral duties towards other individuals, such as ones towards any children of their own.
 
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This is true at least within contemporary Western countries on which this article focuses. Within societies with harsher living conditions, the relevant cut-off will be lower as people will experience faster physical and cognitive decline.
 
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Who might include, inter alia, any children, friends, romantic partners, siblings, and neighbors that they might have.
 
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Metadata
Title
Why visiting one’s ageing mother is not enough: on filial duties to prevent and alleviate parental loneliness
Author
Bouke de Vries
Publication date
01-03-2021
Publisher
Springer Netherlands
Published in
Medicine, Health Care and Philosophy / Issue 1/2021
Print ISSN: 1386-7423
Electronic ISSN: 1572-8633
DOI
https://doi.org/10.1007/s11019-020-10000-5

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