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01-12-2012 | Original Paper

Strategies and Techniques to Maintain Sexual Desire

Authors: Barry McCarthy, Emily Farr

Published in: Journal of Contemporary Psychotherapy | Issue 4/2012

Abstract

The new mantra in sex therapy is desire, pleasure, eroticism, and satisfaction. There is growing acceptance that the prime sexual factor influencing the couple’s relationship is sexual desire. This conceptual/clinical paper explores two core concepts for maintaining sexual desire in committed, long-term relationships: (1) Establishing a comfortable, functional couple sexual style which balances each person’s sexual autonomy with being an intimate, erotic team and (2) adopting the Good Enough Sex model which promotes a variable, flexible sexual repertoire and recognizes the value of both mutual (synchronous) and asynchronous sexual experiences.

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Title: Strategies and Techniques to Maintain Sexual Desire
Authors: Barry McCarthy
Emily Farr
Publication date: 01-12-2012
Publisher: Springer US
Published in: Journal of Contemporary Psychotherapy / Issue 4/2012
Print ISSN: 0022-0116
Electronic ISSN: 1573-3564
DOI: https://doi.org/10.1007/s10879-012-9207-7

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