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Relationship Dynamics Between Aging Mothers and Caregiving Daughters: Filial Expectations and Responsibilities

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Using qualitative analysis, this research examined filial responsibility and the relationship dynamics between aging mothers and their caregiving daughters. In-depth interviews with 11 mother–daughter pairs explored respondents' sense of filial responsibility, filial expectations, the congruence between mothers' and daughters' expectations, and strategies used to negotiate incongruent expectations. Employing grounded theory, seven categorical themes emerged describing the daughters' perceptions and experiences of providing care. Themes were later linked to the mothers' responses concerning filial responsibility and their experiences of receiving care. Three approaches to caregiving emerged: undifferentiated, dispassionate, and mutually balanced. Findings from the present study have important implications for practitioners working with older adults and their family caregivers.

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    Laura M. Donorfio

  2. School of Family Studies and University of Connecticut Center on Aging, Storrs, Connecticut, 06269

    Nancy W. Sheehan

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Donorfio, L.M., Sheehan, N.W. Relationship Dynamics Between Aging Mothers and Caregiving Daughters: Filial Expectations and Responsibilities. Journal of Adult Development 8, 39–49 (2001). https://doi.org/10.1023/A:1026497721126

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